You are Overworked and Underappreciated When Caring For Your Mom or Dad
Caring for your mom or dad, is not easy. It may not be physically difficult, but the unending responsibility and daily emergencies take their toll. You love your parents, but its not easy when your efforts go underappreciated by them and your family. So what can you do?
Here are five things you can do to relieve the chronic stress and pressures created by your caregiving responsibilities.
- Get Organized. Set up a daily routine and to do lists. This is your first step and you need to do it so you can explain to others what you do and even assign tasks to others.
- Take Time for Yourself. Schedule times when you are completely free, and meet with friends and family. You may need to ask for help to ensure your time is uninterrupted. Which leads us to the next item on our list.
- Ask for AND Accept Help. Make a list (See Get Organized) of ways others can help you. Let your helpers choose what they would like to do. Someone might do the grocery shopping, laundry or errands. For family members that “want to help”, but are not local or ever available, ask them to contribute money for professional help, such as housekeepers, home care aides, lawn services, etc.
- Find Caregiver Resources In Your Community. Call you local Area Agency on Aging for information on transportation services, meals on wheels, etc.
- Create a Safety Net. You never know what will happen. Contact a home care agency and establish a relationship, so if something happens to you they can immediately provide a caregiver for your loved one(s) until you are able to resume your responsibilities. The home care agency can even provide caregivers on a regular basis so you can be sure to consistently take time for yourself.
If you work outside the home, or are being torn between your own children’s needs and your parent’s then consider using a professional caregiver provided by a home care agency for regular, reliable care.