Perhaps you can’t imagine the situation, but for a moment, just close your eyes and think about what it could be like to be caring for your spouse, a person whom you’ve spent the majority of your life with, and tending to his or her needs because their health is beginning to decline. Over time, the emotional and physical exertion for this act of love can take its toll on even the best of us. If your mother or father is providing senior care for their spouse, know that it could be more than they can handle.
Pride is an interesting thing. So many of us would rather take on tasks that we know, deep down, are going to be bad for us, wear us down, or put our health at risk. Yet we continue to do them. Why? For one thing, and this is especially true for the elderly generation in our country today, it’s because they were self reliant. Another issue is that parents often have a hard time asking their children for help.
But when your father, for example, had a stroke or heart attack and the doctors told your mother that he was going to need extra help getting around the house and tending to his own care, she said that she would take care of him. Maybe she believes that it’s her responsibility, or she loves him so deeply that she wouldn’t even think twice about being the person to provide that level of care for him.
And while you may think that she has everything under control, that she’s doing well, the emotional toll can be even greater than the physical one. Coping with being a senior care service provider to a spouse is one of those things that is often an unspoken burden. She won’t say that it’s wearing her down and she will continue to do what she can to make sure that her husband, the love of her life, has what he needs and that he is safe and healthy.
However, what happens if that level of care means that her health is compromised as well? The best thing that anyone can do when their spouse requires some form of senior health care services is to consider hiring a professional caregiver to assist. This doesn’t mean that your mother wouldn’t be there for your father, but rather that she will get some much needed help so that she can be there for him emotionally as well. Senior care can make all the difference in the world for a spouse who is looking after the love of their life.