One of the bigger aspects of holding regular family meetings about your aging adult’s care could be making sure that the right people are at the meetings. There are a lot of variables that can help you determine who should be at which meeting.
Every Family Is Different.
Family dynamics are a complicated thing. You may have family members spread out across the globe or there may be only a few family members who want to be involved in these conversations. In general, you want to include people in caregiving meetings who have something to do with your senior’s care. This could be in superficial ways or they may be almost as involved as you are.
You Might Need Different Meetings for Different Groups
Because families are complex, you may want to hold slightly different meetings for different groups of family members. For instance, if you need some family members to pitch in with some specific tasks, you might invite a larger amount of immediate and extended family members. If you’re trying to work out the logistics of hiring senior care providers, you may want a smaller group of family members. Often the topic of the meeting might help you to narrow down who should be there.
Your Senior May Need to Be Involved.
Some family caregivers aren’t comfortable having their aging adult present at family meetings. This can depend greatly on your elderly family member’s health and ability to be involved in the discussion to the extent that she would like. If at all possible, do what you can to keep your senior as involved in family meetings and her own care as possible.
A Moderator Can Help Sometimes.
It might be difficult for some family members to work together, even in the name of helping your aging adult solve specific problems. The conflict amongst other family members and yourself might become so troublesome that having a moderator may be something to consider. Having a counselor, clergy member, or even someone from an agency that helps the elderly might be the answer.
Family meetings are a way for you to help your senior get what she needs and keep the people who need to be informed up to date. If in-person meetings don’t get that job done for everyone involved, you may need to change your tactic to other forms of communication, such as a newsletter or conference calls.